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When sex is bad...........

Discussion in 'Female Quantum Biology' started by Jack Kruse, Jan 29, 2018.

  1. Da-mo

    Da-mo Gold

    Glad you brought this up. It is a much more common problem today than it ever was in the past because of internet accessability to porn.

    The nature of the dopamine based addictions ( and porn addiction is a real thing) is that the more stimulus you get the more it takes to get that dopamine hit. There are young men in their teens and 20s nowadays having a soft time getting excited when they interact with a real live woman due to the availability of porn. There is a no-fap movement out there right now where men abstain from porn and masturbation to try to get their ability to achieve and maintain an erection back when in the presence of a real live sexual partner.

    \I guess that like leptin resistance, one can also become dopamine/oxytocin/vasopressin resistant like the Romans you mentioned.
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  2. Mayuri

    Mayuri Silver

    Agreed, definitely resistent.
    Porn is an epidemic, and makes trillions.
    It's a sign of the times.
    (When government is very corrupt the people become so too.)
    Hope we can turn it around.
  3. Da-mo

    Da-mo Gold

    I have a life where most of what you might see in porn is available to me in real life - it is definitely a real balancing act to remain in a position where one does not need more and more ad infinitum to remain somewhat normal. In fact it is this very problem that brought me to this community seeking answers I did not have.

    I see very young couples indulging in extreme sexual practices and think that they need to tone it down lest they end up hurting themselves. If you are in your twenties and extreme by most standards, where do you go from there to get your kicks? Would you even make it to 50? or end up like the guy in your restaurant?
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  4. Da-mo

    Da-mo Gold

    The interesting dynamic happening now in porn, as a couple of previous posters mentioned, is that the popularity of porn that more closely resembles everyday sex and everyday bodies is overtaking that of staged porn. It seems that there is more of an appetite for reality than fantasy. I personally think it is encouraging.
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  5. drezy

    drezy Gold

    That's Sad. Leave it to humans to demolish themselves with overabundance.

    Ahhh that's been the problem...

    This is where being bookish helps. Those tiny panties make good bookmarks and the text will be there for later.

    I like @Da-mo 's bullshit test concept. Raising a teenager I have to convey stuff like this and keep a fair perspective of the opposite sex. Ladies are built to influence men and bend them some to their will. Young females and unruly not-so-young females sometimes like to bend so much the man will break in half and no longer be desirable. It's intended to see if the dude is a pushover. Given that historically, and certainly for 9 months at a time, women get stuck with the lion share of child rearing I think it's a pretty valid test if you see it for what it is.

    I knew it all along. Based on your confident style you're immodestly endowed and work in the porn industry. All that talk about "packing bearings" while "needing ice" to do it was a well crafted metaphor @Da-mo, but I got it. I understand gotta make a living Damo, we all still love you. Some maybe more so now.

    Avant garde! Interesting. "Homecooked" and "Homestyle" is becoming popular in the restaurant biz too.
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  6. drezy

    drezy Gold

    That's goddamn well said. If there are people or things in your life that suck your energy (even if just by gut feel) get them the f*ck out now.
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  7. Mayuri

    Mayuri Silver

    It would be good for you to teach your son about how women go into heat. He can tell them to "get a grip on themselves". And let's not forget the legacy of how young men tell women what they long to hear to get over, Drezy.
    It's not all a women's fault, the debauchery. I remember in high school the poor girls who succumbed to the sweet talk and had their reputations ruined for years and were gossiped about all over the school.
    That will wake up any young woman up who was considering a little experimentation.
    We're in this together, men & women. :)

    Yes, don't want to be a VAMPIRE. :)
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  8. drezy

    drezy Gold

    I always had a fascination but avoidance instinct for this. It amazed me how many friends in college got slurped into this.

    It's ignorant and ill advised for a man to assume a woman can't be amazingly destructive and dangerous. I've seen so many get crushed under bad assumptions.

    We are in this together for sure. Based on timing I could have been raising a daughter. Good lord my wife objects to what I teach my son. She'd flip over the fact that I'd feel responsible to show a daughter even more reality.

    The gossip angle on young women versus young men experimenting seems asymmetrical for sure.
  9. Mayuri

    Mayuri Silver

    Dear Prudence? Not exactly. There are relations that are legitimate caring ones in our youth but that's the score - they've got to measure up, to caring with boundaries. Chaperones well at least in the vicinity, not in sight. :)
    Our grand daughter, we tell her we understand what she is going through. Too big for daddy's lap and way too young for anything else. It's a difficult place to be for a young woman, adolescence; very difficult. The music videos she exposes herself to give her license to imitate, and possibly hold twisted desires. To state that we know what she is going through because such feelings are collective and that we all experience depravation at certain times, let's her know that she is on a trodden path that is manageable.

    Guys have been known to go on forever with the "i love you' trash, and then - the poor girl gets dumped and dumped big time. Yes, me too Drezy, I've seen many hearts crashed and burned, usually from inconsiderate actions and also denial - we like to deceive ourselves.

    Tell it straight to your son, he is not only dealing with vampires but with people who stay up all night long on the devices and are viewing all sorts of material there in secret.
    Honestly, these days one doesn't know who the heck one is dealing with these days.

    Please be sure to use the word man/woman in my posts because I feel that if a woman can't find a man/woman or feel for a man/woman and vice-a-versa, then they are entitled to form a bond of love with someone of the same sex if they are so orientated. It's just that the rules are so hazy, the signs so mixed up, the experiences so strange, that it's hard to find the path to take. I know many women who have had such devastating experiences with men that they switched sexes and vice versa. Sounds like you do too.

    Tell the children the truth. If it hits hard, well? It has to, doesn't it?
    What about the story of that 19 year old who was seduced by a 32 year old woman and contracted aids? It was his first sexual experience.
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  10. drezy

    drezy Gold

    Too big for daddy's lap and too young for someone else's.

    Whoa. No, once my clothes are off crying or laughing is instant grounds for stark reconsiderations.

    He actually pointed this out to me on his own. One of his classmates have a messed up family. The kids are on screens till late at night and the eldest daughter tried to off herself. That is all the younger brother ever talks about. It's pretty sad my son has stepped away and the child moved to a different school district.
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  11. Mayuri

    Mayuri Silver

    Very sad.
    Smart son.
    I can tell you that although we all wish to rescue people we have to be careful. In other words a drowning person will drown you - which is why you have to train to save a drowning person.
  12. Da-mo

    Da-mo Gold

    Men are quite fragile too . . . and far less capable of faking it.
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  13. Da-mo

    Da-mo Gold

    Best I can offer here . . .
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  14. caroline

    caroline Moderator

    this is so very true....... women need to be careful with that hand that rocks the cradle.

    I have been so lucky to have/had two beautiful men in my life. They are 150% all in and I cherish that. Relationships are fragile and we need to work hard and thoughtfully and compassionately to protect them.
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  15. JanSz

    JanSz Gold

    How, when did you knew that you are ready for another man?
  16. drezy

    drezy Gold

    Trying to subtly sneak in a pastry cream bag for faking effect just won't work for you... take it from me.

    1. You'll get caught every time.
    2. It's a big waste of good pastry cream.
    3. Ants

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  17. caroline

    caroline Moderator

    Hi Jan .....it was a quantum journey to be sure.

    I found Jack on MDA a few months after my DH passed. I knew I had found "gold" Jack made so much sense and I was committed to take the journey with him, even tho I struggle with all the science. I knew I didn't need a PHD to understand the three legged stool!

    I spent long days at the ocean, ate epi paleo. C/T'd my butt off. turned off all electronics, turned off the hot water in my apartment, and the circuit breaker.

    Before long - I wasn't invisible any longer. Before long I was happy with myself - I weighed less than I had in years, I was sleeping well, and best of all I felt very happy and full of energy.

    As Jack has said many times ....we need to love ourselves first before we can expect someone else too - absolute words of wisdom.

    The biggest step was going to Orlando to meet Jack. He told me something that changed everything for me - just something very simple but it was gold for me.

    I also had the privilege of meeting Stella in Orlando and we became best friends for life ...sisters from a different mother. Stella and I have continued on this optimal journey together. It has been life altering for both of us.

    I felt, in Orlando, that I was at ground zero ........and amazing things started to happen and continue to happen.

    So that is a long and round about way of saying .......once you can love and appreciate yourself then it leaves room for someone wonderful to add another dimension.

    Once you become open to all possibilities - others gravitate towards you. It turns out that a lovely man was looking for someone to share his life with and he was willing to be patient.

    I went from " I don't know if I can" to trusting hm completely in a very short period of time.

    Two other important things .......Stella had to love him too and he was interested and a willing participant in all this! Now he says "Jack says" more than me!
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  18. caroline

    caroline Moderator

    I forgot to add a biggie .....My Libido was back! and I needed the touch of another human .......
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  19. Mayuri

    Mayuri Silver

    I remember visiting my mom in Florida and two people 75 years old respectively came up to our table and announced they had just been married. They had known each other for about a year. They had their walking shoes on having just come back from an early morning walk hand-in-hand. They were both in great shape, enjoying the sun and swimming, going to the beach and they had both lost their partners through illness. The two of them were starting a brand-new life together at 75, they were so completely impressive, displaying a shining example of how great life can be after a life long love. I thought to myself that could be me one-day ...

    My mom would also go dancing 5 days a week with a 92-year-old man friend, and I can tell you they had so much fun. Whenever we would go to his villa he had his life with his former wife and life in photos up on the wall. He was cheerful and loved life.

    I also told my husband that I want him to be happy and enjoy his life with another if I didn't make it to old age. Life is so precious and much more enjoyable with a partner.

    Might as well add, will never understand those ladies who say I'm not dating a man who is bald – a high percentage of men are bald. It's so strange, they're single & well into their 40s and 50s and they are looking for a 20-year-old - it is absolutely ridiculous. They would rather live alone and it's such a travesty!
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  20. JanSz

    JanSz Gold

    So you have lost your libido and then it came back (with capital L).
    That's a change.
    Do you think it might have been different had you newer lost your libido?

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